father-in-law passed away

Abstract	Journal on 2023-02-28
Authors	Walter Fan
Category	learning note
Status	v1.0
Updated	2023-02-28
License	CC-BY-NC-ND 4.0

岳父走了，一个沉默，骄傲，讲究，有点怪脾气的倔老头，在生命的最后两个月喘不上来气，吃不下饭，瘦成了一把骨头，终于解脱了，在一个周六的夜晚，永远地离开了这个世界，没留下什么话，在我看到他的最后的时刻，就已经失去了意识，ICU住了两天后撒手人寰，驾鹤西去，不知道老爷子弥留之际会说些什么。我幼年丧父，中年又失去了这个叫爸爸的男人，二十年来的翁婿情，老人家没有对我说过一句重话，借钱给我买房，帮助我带娃，我也尽了自己的一份孝心，愿岳父黄泉路上走好，你的妻女我会照顾好，在天堂里我们会有重逢的那一天.

岳父的离世让我意识到生命的脆弱，也让我更加珍惜身边的人和时光。生老病死，是逃不脱的自然规律，在告别这个世界时能心怀坦荡，能少受折磨，能有家人的陪伴和抚慰，这就够了，我相信灵魂不灭，我相信薪火相传，相信有来世.

回想起和岳父的相处，虽然交流不多，但忘不了他给过我的默默支持和帮助. 其实对岳父我并不很了解，他是一名转业军人, 曾经做过煤球厂的书记，生了两个优秀的女儿. 老爷子七十五年的一生, 经历了建国以来的的历次苦难, 挨过饿, 扛过枪, 修过飞机, 虽然得了三十来年类风湿性关节炎, 可是手很巧, 烧的菜也很好吃. 不知道他对我这个女婿的评价如何，我猜想他对我的最大期望应该就是善待他的女儿和外孙子，给她们幸福的一生.

My father-in-law passed away after enduring two months of breathlessness, loss of appetite, and significant weight loss. He was a silent, proud, fastidious, and somewhat eccentric old man. On a Saturday evening, he finally found relief from his suffering and left this world forever, leaving behind no last words. By the time I saw him for the last time, he was already unconscious and passed away two days after being admitted to the ICU. I wonder what he would have said if he could speak during his final moments.

I lost my father when I was young and now I have lost this man whom I called "dad" for the last twenty years. Despite his reserved nature, he never spoke harsh words to me. He loaned me money to buy a house, helped me take care of my children, and I have done my best to be a filial son-in-law. I hope he can rest in peace on his journey to the netherworld. As his wife and daughter, I will take care of them and look forward to the day when we will reunite in heaven.

Life, death, and illness are natural phenomena that we cannot avoid. The most important thing is to be able to say goodbye to the world with an open heart, to suffer as little as possible, and to have the company and comfort of our loved ones. I believe that the soul lives on, and that traditions can be passed down from generation to generation.

In truth, I did not know my father-in-law well. He was a retired soldier and once served as a secretary in a coal mine. He raised two outstanding daughters, and despite experiencing numerous hardships throughout his seventy-five years of life, including hunger and gun-wielding, he was a skilled and talented man who suffered from rheumatoid arthritis for thirty years. Nevertheless, he had dexterous hands and cooked delicious food. I am not sure what he thought of me as his son-in-law, but I hope that his greatest expectation was for me to take good care of his daughters and grandchildren and give them a happy life.

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